As a relationship specialist I can help rebuild your marriage and have a special interest in working with adolescents and young adults. Some of us may not have been equipped with the skills needed in order to make any relationship work, be it as an employee, spouse, son or daughter.
By implementing the Gottman Method of Couple Therapy – you will learn research-based skills that will dramatically improve the intimacy and friendship in your relationship and help manage conflict in a healthy, positive way. If you have a strong relationship, the sessions will provide you with insights and tools to foster further closeness, friendship, and trust. If your relationship is distressed, counselling will provide you with a greater understanding of your relationship and a road map for repair.
As a therapist, educator and researcher, I was attracted towards this method as it is grounded on what actually works in relationships that are happy and stable, not idealistic notions or anecdotal evidence of what marriage ought to be.
Therapy focuses around a framework that encourages couples to become better friends, increasing a sense of positivity in the home; change the way we handle conflict (since conflict will always be part of a relationship), and build a sense of shared meaning together.
The process usually unfolds with the first session being one of establishing trust in me. I then gather a brief family history. The session usually ends with asking the couple to think of a recent argument they had and then have them engage in the discussion here with me, so I can observe their interaction styles. Often I can tell from that 10 minute discussion what has been going on for the last several years and why they are here today. I ask the couple to complete The Relationship Online Questionnaire. This questionnaire gives a tremendous amount of insight towards the current state of the relationship. Couples usually appreciate this as well!
It’s Time to Stop the Stigma Around Couples Therapy
31 y.o. Mom
Hi Luella, I wanted to check in and let you know how things are going… sooo good. We’re really happy and have moved forward. We’re talking, laughing and looking for a new house. I’m taking time to work on myself regularly and feel better then I have in a long time. I don’t want to jinx anything but we’re good. That’s not saying I don’t have moments where I feel upset or angry, but I can work through those feeling now. Thank you for helping us.
Male, 22 years married
Luella has been a huge help in making our lives better. Her guidance in getting us to deal with our issues head-on, yet in a soft way, has been amazing. Luella is not only well educate and experienced, but also has a personal desire to make life better for your clients. I don’t know where we would be without her.